Katy and Ken are on their third date. They are enjoying cocktails and conversation at a popular steakhouse while waiting on their meals to arrive. Ken has been the leader of the conversation, introducing all of the topics. Ken is surprised that Katy knows some information on the majority of the topics that he’s mentioned.
In Katy’s mind she feels relieved that Ken is holding such a well versed conversation with her, and that she is familiar with the subjects that Ken has provided. The date is seemingly going well, right? Katy’s stuffed chicken breast and pecan sweet potatoes arrive as well as Ken’s New York strip and roasted garlic potatoes. They enjoy their meals and prepare to leave the restaurant.
Ken takes Katy home and their date has officially ended. Ken likes Katy so far and Katy seems to be interested in him as well. The next day Ken calls Katy. He begins to dig further in Katy’s background. He asks questions about her educational background, who she’s dated, life experiences,etc.
Ken changes the subject and begins to discuss something he is interested in, which is film. When Katy engages in the conversation Ken cuts her off in mid-sentence and says “DAMN DO YOU HAVE TO BE A KNOW IT ALL?!” Katy of course was offended and stated that she wasn’t a know it all, but she does like to read and learn new things. Ken decided to end their conversation abruptly. The two never conversed again.
Ken and Katy are fictional characters but they are a combination of stories and personal experience. Is there something wrong with a woman being smart or aware of what’s going on in the world? You would think that a man would be able to appreciate a good conversation, right? I do understand that men like to feel as if they are informing or teaching women. It gives them the sense of leadership and guidance.
But what exactly is a “know it all?” Is it a person that’s well informed? A person that likes to teach other people what they know? We do know that a “know it all” is supposed to be a negative term because no one knows it all. I think the term is often misused. Just because you know something doesnt mean you’re a “know it all.”
Should women have to play the role of a space cadet or nod her way through a conversation so she can make her significant other feel as if he is “schooling” her? At the same time, women like to be taught by their man or the person that they are dating. It gives women a sense of excitement. However, I thought intelligent conversations were always a plus. I know every man doesn’t feel this way about well informed women (Thank God), but it’s becoming more obvious that there are too many who uphold this attitude.
Do men find it threatening or intimidating dating a knowledgeable woman? Is being smart a turn off to men? I just find it hard to accept that women are being frowned upon for being knowledgable. What’s the point of absorbing information if you can’t use it or share it?!
What do you all think?
This blog was originally posted in May 2014 on http://www.LetsTalkRaeStyle.com