Treat yourself

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Every now and then I feel like the work that I’m doing isn’t enough. I find new ways to become more productive. I get a little lazy sometimes and put things off. I have a corporate job, run and write my own blog site, I’m a business writer (Business Service Solutions), and I’m in the middle of writing my second book.

The last 3 months have been hectic! I’ve been working nonstop. There has been constant brain storming, collaborating with other wtiters, working out, and my regular social gatherings. I can’t seem to actually go to sleep until 4am, and I have to get up around 7:30am. I’m a night owl anyway, but I typically try to get to sleep around 2am.

I really do try to sleep. I forgot to mention that I’m managing 3 Instagram pages and 4 Facebook pages. Needless to say I’m tired, and it’s hard to admit it! On my Business Service Solutions (@Business_Service_Solutions) Instagram page, I give a business tip every week. This week’s business tip is take a vacation!

It’s so important to take care of yourself, and put everything else on hold. Although I have technically had 3 vacations this year, I didn’t leave the state and I still worked all of my businesses. The only thing I didn’t do was work my 9-5. Today I’m taking a mini vacation. I have about 4 or 5 days off, and I’m flying out.

I’m going to try not to answer any emails or go to bed thinking about my next and/or current projects.

Treat yourself!

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War on drugs!

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FACTS:

Law enforcement has been targeting people of color like Black men, Mexican Immigrants, and Mexican Americans as far back as the early 1900s. President Nixon initiated the war on drugs in 1971. During this time, drug usage was seen as rebellion by youth and for enjoyment during social gatherings. Of course President Nixon exaggerated the drug usage and its effects on people, and went on a crucifying crusade!

Nixon pumped up drug enforcement agencies and began the no-knock warrants and mandatory sentencing. John Ehrlichman (Top Nixon aide) stated as follows: “You want to know what this was really all about? The Nixon campaign in 1968, and the Nixon White House after that, had two enemies: the antiwar left and black people. You understand what I’m saying. We knew we couldn’t make it illegal to be either against the war or blacks, but by getting the public to associate the hippies with marijuana and blacks with heroin, and then criminalizing both heavily, we could disrupt those communities. We could arrest their leaders, raid their homes, break up their meetings, and vilify them night after night on the evening news.”

There is much more I could say about Nixon and his antics with the “war on drugs,” but there is no point because the paragraph above explains it all. In the reign of Ronald Reagan, specifically 1981, Nancy Reagan started a huge anti-drug campaign. This was mainly due to images of African American people that were addicted to crack cocaine going public. The 80s is also when the DARE program was implemented, which was created to educate citizens on the effects of drugs. During this time you also saw a spike of people being incarcerated for nonviolent drug offenses. Here is a quick statistic for you: The incarceration rate went from 50,000 people to over 400,000 people due to nonviolent drug crimes due to the contributions of Presidents who held office between 1980 to 1997.

LET’S GET REAL:

Black people have been through hell when it comes to the Government and its “war on drugs,” which we know is just war against Black people. Let me be more specific: The soldiers from the Korean War which turned into the Vietnam War were actually given heroin! The body becomes dependent upon heroin, therefore it needs the drug to function. After the war, they sent this same soldier back home without a pot to piss in on top of an expensive addiction. Who is the real criminal in this matter?

I’m an 80’s baby. People always joke about 80’s babies being crack babies. It’s not a secret that crack hit all major cities in the 80’s. Drug addicts were thrown in prison, children were put into foster homes, and if you sold crack you were imprisoned as well. Using drugs was considered criminal, even though addiction is an illness! However, since Black people are almost always viewed as criminals, a Black person being on drugs was a double dose of madness for America.

Once again, countless amounts of families were destroyed due to law enforcement and the Government’s antics with drugs, imprisoning those with an illness when what they really needed was help from a rehab facility. Jail and foster care were the only options offered for Black families. How did cocaine get here anyway? Black people didn’t ship it here or get it approved to be shipped here (shade towards the Government).

Marijuana has always been controversial when it comes to people deciding if it should really be considered a drug because of all of its positive effects. However, if you’re Black, you can and will be punished for usage or distribution. The laws are slowly changing from State to State regarding marijuana.

CURRENTLY:

There is a huge opioid epidemic. There are billboards everywhere on getting addicts help. TV commercials are constantly regarding free rehabilitation for drug users. That’s a drastic change of heart from a few decades ago! Oh, I forgot to mention that Congress is putting a plan in place for the Government to fund over 3 million dollars to assist those who are addicts and need help. So, what happened from the smug attitude towards addicts in the 80s and 90s to today?!

The addicts today are White Americans. They love their OxyContin, which is an opioid. OxyContin is really just lab created heroin. Vicodin and meth are high on the list of White addicts. Now all of a sudden drug addiction is a tragedy affecting families, because those families are White. Although being addicted to any substance is sad, this Country and its policies have left me numb. I lack empathy and sympathy for the current drug epidemic. I’m looking for those same agencies that destroyed people that look like me to come and arrest those White families for their criminal acts of using drugs.

White families aren’t constantly being policed by law enforcement in a search for drugs. They aren’t stopped and frisked just because. They aren’t being pulled over for no reason and then forced to get their car searched. Yet, they are the ones using all the drugs. Where are the warrants for their homes? Where is their jail cell?

I’m waiting on citizens that have been given 20- 50 years to life in prison for nonviolent drug crimes to be released from prison! I don’t want them to just be released. I want their education, food, dwelling space, and life to be funded by the Government, because starting a life outside of prison is a challenge.

I created this article because I’m tired of people pretending that racism and systematic racism don’t exist! The war on drugs is a clear cut example of both! I also feel that not enough people are making enough noise about this blatant racism and discrimination. Until this Country and the citizens decide to right its wrongs involving the imprisonment and previous drug addictions of Black families, I am not concerned about those addicted to opioids. It’s not an issue or concern of mine.

The Government (“the system”) created all of this madness, so that same group needs to clean up their mess without my tax dollars!

For more information regarding this topic I suggest you read “The New Jim Crow’ by Michelle Alexander.

Someone knows what happened to Kenneka.

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The day I heard about the mysterious death of Kenneka Jenkins is the same day that I stopped sleeping at night. I’ve been discussing her via social media and praying for the release of her spirit and soul privately. No, I don’t know Kenneka or her family personally. But, do I have to in order to be filled with melancholy over her death? I was 19 before. I have a 19 year old niece and a 19 year old cousin. They like to hangout with friends just as I did and still do. .
I’ve been intoxicated before even though I was under age. I’ve done it all. Luckily none of my incidents turned fatal.

None of the information provided to the public regarding Kenneka’s death made sense. I still can’t believe authorities had the audacity to inform her Mother (Ms.Martin) that she walked in a freezer and froze to death. Keep in mind they told her this after she had been calling authorities and begging the Crown Plaza Hotel of Rosemeont, IL to review their cameras because her daughter was missing. First the hotel refused, and then they told Ms. Martin (Kenneka’s Mom) she wasnt on any footage.

After the police came to do a search of the hotel her body was found in a freezer of a kitchen that the hotel no longer uses. None of the other kitchen appliances were operating or plugged up but the freezer for some reason was. Alleged video footage of a much wider girl hit the internet staggering as if she had been drugged surfaced. It was allegedly Kenneka. It shows her going to different places in the hotel and walking into a kitchen, but nothing else! It’s not even a full video of footage: It’s pieces of clips. http://www.abc7chicagonews.com said police put together some instruments within the video to reconstruct what they believed was Kenneka’s path. That statement alone explains the lack of authenticity.

Kenneka’s death was ruled as an accident, and the case was officially closed this evening. I never believed that Kenneka’s death was an accident! Today photos of her body were released to the public. Indecent photos. Pictures of Kenneka’s lifeless body in a freezer on the floor with her breast exposed, her pants halfway up, a busted lip, and a shoe off and away from her foot! There is blood visible on her body as well as on the floor. There is also a large amount of dirt on the side of her Jordan gym shoe, and all up one side of her clothes. To be honest it looks as if Kenneka had been dragged on her side across the floor.

The photos that were released are disrespectful to Kenneka and her family. It’s apparent that there is no respect for the dead. Let me rephrase. There is no respect for a Black womans body parts or lifeless body as a whole, which is another reason why I feel her case is being dismissed! The pictures just raise more questions and speculation. If she froze to death why does she look beaten up? Why are her private parts exposed? Why is there blood on the floor? How could this be ruled as an accident? Who are the hotel and possibly the police trying to protect?

I hope someone has a conscience and decides to tell the truth about what happened to Kenneka. Kenneka is much more than just a teenage girl that lost her life. Kenneka is our daughter, little sister, favorite little cousin, niece, the little girl you watched grow up that lives down the street, and friend. Kenneka is you and I when we were young. Wouldn’t you want your community to care enough to discover the truth, and just maybe be able to provide your family with some closure?

Tell us what happened to Kenneka.

Budgeting and saving

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I started my blog because I wanted to inform the people about what’s going on in the world, and to help people comprehend situations and circumstances beyond the surface. In fact I want people to question everything that they were ever told, because many of us have been told untruths. My website (blog) is my small contribution to the people. Recently I decided upon some new categories. One of the categories is “MONEY TALKS!” I’m a person that has struggled with saving money because I lack discipline in this area. Simply put I am a spend thrift and I know I am not the only one. I buy what I want and I’m unapologetic about it. However, I know that saving money is important. It doesn’t matter how much money you make either. If you’re bad with money you can be a millionaire and still be broke.

This is the first post for the Money Talks category. I am pleased that Sonia Perkins-Thompson,  an entrepreneur with a Bachelor of Science in Business with a focus in financial management supplied LetsTalkRaeStyle with a video about budgeting. This is her contribution to the people.

A MESSAGE FROM SONIA!

“This video is a short “down to earth” basic why to create a budget. It gives examples and reasons on why creating a budget is so important. This video talks about the things we over look and do not think about when it comes to budgeting. We think sometimes it’s hard to budget and save but in reality, no one can win a game without a game plan. Focusing on the importance of discipline and other things mentioned in this video can lead to  the goals you have in life.” 

HERE IS THE VIDEO!

https://youtu.be/baSfxynMFeM

Am I a bad Mother?

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By Katrina Hamilton

 

I cry when I’m alone. A lot. The thought of having to care for someone who depends on you and cannot survive without you is frightening. On top of that, my daughter screams my head off almost non stop on me, but is an angel with her dad. It’s frustrating. I’m always tired. I have a loved one who tends to criticize almost every decision I make regarding my child, and it makes me feel like I’m not doing anything right for my daughter. I miss my kid free life sometimes. I miss the freedom that I had when my husband and I could just wake up and hop in the car for a road trip, or go on a spontaneous date without the responsibility of having to bring a child along or find childcare for her. I have terrible anxiety. I’m always afraid to leave the house alone with my daughter, but I’m also always afraid to stay home alone with her. Of course I still end up doing both, but I’m in anxiety mode the entire time until we’re reunited with my husband.

I’ve battled some type of anxiety since the day my daughter was born. I’ve always dealt with it alone because I was afraid that if I shared my fears with my husband, I’d make him feel like it was somehow his fault, and because none of it is even remotely his fault (or anyone’s fault for that matter), that would make me feel even worse if he ever started feeling that way. I kept it from my friends who don’t have kids. I felt like like they couldn’t possibly understand. I also kept it from my fellow mommy friends because they all seemed like they had everything together. I’ve never seen them cry or complain. They always seemed so happy and eager to spend every waking moment with their little ones, so I figured this is what a normal mother should be like. I started feeling like maybe the feelings I had were selfish, and maybe I’m not a good mom because of those feelings, so I kept it to myself.

But then, a few days ago, I started scrolling through my Facebook timeline and a post that someone shared from a young mom popped up. She talked about the rough day in motherhood that she was experiencing. She talked about how she sat in her car at the store and cried. She talked about how sometimes she has to hide for a few, just to prevent herself from completely falling apart. That post had 18 THOUSAND shares. And then another post came across my timeline. It was a post from one of the mommy groups that I’m a part of. These mommies were on there pouring their hearts out about how rough it is to be a mom at times. Last time I checked, there were about 200 comments on that post. And then another post popped up. This mother said she cried and felt terrible about making her daughter eat school lunch because she was unable to get herself together to make her a homemade lunch. As I kept scrolling, I saw a few more posts from mothers who were having bad days and were beating themselves up about it. Up until recently, many of these mothers (myself included) kept these things to themselves, which I believe may also be a small part of why so many of us end up battling depression or anxiety. The more you keep things bottled up, the more it hurts you.

These posts made me realize that I’m not alone though, and that these feelings are perfectly fine to have. As much as we want to be, we are not Superwomen, and that’s ok. It doesn’t make us bad mothers at all. It doesn’t make us selfish, and it doesn’t make us crazy. It makes us normal human beings. There is no handbook to teach you how to navigate through motherhood, and you will have bad days. All of this is ok. You can cry, hide out for an hour, and even scream if you need to. You can then pick up the phone and call another mother to talk about it, because our feelings definitely need to be discussed more. They also need to be discussed with someone who has been in your shoes and will not judge you, and I guarantee that your other mom friends felt the same way at some point, and will be happy and relieved to have the conversation with you.

No matter what you are going through, and no matter how you’re working on addressing it, just remember that your breakdowns are ok, and you will be ok. Your babies love you, and no matter how you may be feeling about yourself at the moment, they think you are the greatest mommy in the world!

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Problematic statements made by Black people.

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I can’t even begin to tell you how disgusted I am with some of things that my people say about each other that makes no sense. Apparently it makes sense to them, but in all actuality, they are usually extremely problematic or they are the views and opinions taken on by our oppressors.

I’ve been carping about this very topic for at least the last 2 weeks. Every time I get ready to sit-down and create this blog, I see another statement made that’s extremely problematic. For example: A woman with a Black son was upset that some young teenage boys threw something wet at her car while they were driving. She literally stated “I bet they have the type of parents that scream about police brutality and argue with teachers about what type of child they have.” I guess it’s okay for police to beat and kill the teenage boys since they did something stupid that teenagers often do? PROBLEMATIC!

Below are 11 of the top problematic statements that Black people make about Black people.

1. “If Black Lives Mattered, we wouldn’t have Black on Black crime!”

NEWS FLASH!! Black on Black crime is a term of propaganda created by the media in the 60’s! The fact of the matter is that people of all ethnicities kill people that look like them! That is a FACT! Black Lives matter was created because when Black people are killed by the police or whomever is feeling trigger happy that is not Black, they get a pass for killing a Black person. The killing is somehow justified and justice is never served. This has been going on for centuries! Also, if you think Black people like the crime or take crime lightly that happens within our own communities, it’s obvious that you have never been to a stop the violence rally or protest, which means you are not active or really paying attention to what’s happening in your community!

BOTTOMLINE: STOP SAYING THAT STUPID SHIT!

2. “If the NFL players aren’t protesting, why should I?”

You should be protesting because you should have the common sense to realize that the NFL is making a powerful statement about how they feel about Black people as a whole. If you didn’t know what that powerful statement was, let me tell you. The NFL’s statement was “we don’t care about your hard times in America due to you being a Black man. Just make our money BOY!”

BOTTOMLINE: THINK! Maybe you could figure some things out and stop letting a sport you don’t get paid to watch or play run your life!

3. “I want a mixed baby.”

Do I even have to explain this? You wanting a “mixed” baby is just stating you don’t like the features of Black babies. You don’t like yourself and how you look. You think that having a close Caucasian gene makes your baby better or special! It doesn’t! If you want a mixed baby, get a Poodle mixed with a Yorkshire, because animals are mixed. Not people!

BOTTOMLINE: You’re IGNORANT! LOVE YOURSELF, IDIOT!

4. “I can’t stand being around Black people.”

You are Black and your statement is ignorant. What makes you think any other ethnicity wants to be around you?

BOTTOMLINE: SHUTUP and get some class!

5. Speaking negatively about a movement that Black people have started to create awareness about social injustice.

Either you are going to support the movement or you’re not! No one needs your criticism when a larger motive or goal is the objective! You being negative in an attempt to disassociate yourself isn’t necessary. You could just be quiet.

BOTTOMLINE: SUPPORT THE CAUSE OR SHUT UP!

6. Stop telling Black people where they went wrong after being beaten and/or handcuffed for no reason by the police.

If you haven’t realized that it doesn’t matter what you do or say if an officer decides to kick your A$$, that’s exactly what’s going to happen. It doesn’t matter what you’re wearing or what you say!

BOTTOMLINE: HELP STOP THE ACCEPTANCE OF POLICE BRUTALITY!

7. “She’s pretty to be dark-skin.”

Are you serious? She’s pretty period! Complexion doesn’t matter.

BOTTOMLINE: GET OFF THE PLANTATION FO MASSA COME BACK!

8. She got “good hair.”

There is no such thing as GOOD HAIR! There are different types of textures of hair. For example kinky, wavy, curly, straight, thick, and soft.

BOTTOMLINE: LOVE THE HAIR THAT YOU HAVE. I DON’T KNOW A SINGLE WOMAN THAT LIKES HER HAIR, NO MATTER THE TEXTURE!

9. “Nah he’s not Black Black he’s from Trinidad”

Slaves were dropped off in the Caribbean, Jamaica, Brazil, Argentina, Chile, Bolivia, Barbados, Dominican Republic, Haiti,Buenos Aires, Ecuador, Cuba, and Puerto Rico! There are more places but this was just to name a few. The slaves in North America were the leftover slaves!

BOTTOMLINE: We have the same African Ancestry! We have been separated by land and culture, which CREATES THE ILLUSION THAT WE ARE DIFFERENT PEOPLE BUT WE ARE NOT!

10. Any time a black celebrity (ie R. Kelly and Bill Cosby) get caught in their bullshit, you all say it’s just because they’re black.

They are disgusting humans getting caught up in their devilsih ways! Just because you like what they represent doesn’t mean that’s who they are! Then you compare them to White celebrities that have been accused of the same thing! NEWS FLASH: THEY AREN’T WHITE!

BOTTOMLINE: Stop blaming the victim and focus on the pattern of the CRIMINAL! If they are so innocent, leave your daughters and nieces with them.

11. Stating that since there are problems within the Black community, we have no reason or right to complain about how other groups of people treat us.

This is the most disappointing statement I’ve seen! No other group of people have the history that we have as far as coming to this country and being separated by complexion! Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and dignity regardless of what the next person has done!

BOTTOMLINE: If you want to shuck and jive and be disrespectful to impress or fit in with another Ethnic group, go by yourself! The rest of us aren’t going with you! BE THE CHANGE THAT YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD!

Getting Fit

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Earlier this year I decided to make a comment to myself to lose some weight! It was a struggle indeed, but my results were worth it! I began going to the gym 5 days a week! Sometimes 4 days depending on the situation. I ended up losing around 25lbs! I was ecstatic, because it had been a long time since I made that commitment to myself and stuck to it!

Guess what happened? LIFE! The month of June was a busy time for me. My bestfriend got married, my business began to pick up, along with my 9-5! Not to mention the weather was amazing, and I just wanted to be free of restrictions! In that one month I gained 12lbs back. I was a little devastated, but hey I did it to myself.  Now I’m back on my journey and trying to reach an even lower weight. I have a specific number in mind.

I have begun  hitting the gym again regularly because after all exercise is important! Especially for people like myself who sit down all day at work. I sit at work, I sit when working for my small business, and I sit while blogging and writing in general. You have to find a way to get your body moving just for the sake of good health if nothing else!

My next challenge area is limiting  my sweet consumption. I am not ashamed to admit that I am a foodie and I love sweets. I’m talking about pound cake, any cake, cookies, cupcakes, brownies, candy, and pies (salivates a little)! I get excited just talking about them. Realistically I know that self-control is a must in this area for me. My goal is to limit my sweets consumption to once a week. On that one day they must be consumed in moderation.

I decided to blog about my journey of weightloss because it’s ugly and it’s real. It’s more than posting cute pictures of yourself in the gym. It’s hard work, discipline, and dedication. I know that there are others who want to get on the bandwagon of healthy living as well! After all this is a lifestyle change. Set an immediate obtainable goal for yourself, stick to it, and increase your goals from there!

The picture for this blog is from last nights workout on the stairclimber. If I can do it so can you!

Let me know what your health goals are…

THIS WAS ORIGINALLY POSTED SEPTEMBER 26TH, 2017 on http://www.LetsTalkRaeStyle.com

A small contribution

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Kaep

I am disappointed in the amount of people that are on my timeline watching any NFL game. I was asked why do I want people to boycott the NFL, but not have the NFL players boycott the NFL. I never said that I didn’t want the players to boycott! In fact, I wish they would! However, they are under a contract and many of the players are young. Sometimes we don’t understand the underlying meanings of actions or lack of actions in pressing circumstances.

Let me just get to why I am disappointed. The NFL has black balled a player for kneeling and/or sitting during the national anthem and for voicing facts of the unjust treatment of Black people in America along with discussing police being able to kill Black people routinely without any consequences behind their actions! Keep in mind the NFL is 70% Black.

The NFL is ultimately telling Black people that they don’t care what happens to us, and what our experiences are as long as we generate money for them! “Keep shucking and jiving boy, and everything will be fine.” The American national anthem is a racist ass song period! There is nothing in that song that Black people or any other ethnic group should be proud of!

There isn’t anything disrespectful to the country about sitting or kneeling during the national anthem. You know what is disrespectful to this country? Waving around a God damned confederate flag! You know why? Because, the south lost the war! The south was literally against the country! Yet, and still people do it and aren’t being punished for it. How about the country has never respected Black people anyway, so could you blame us for giving the country that same treatment?

This is not about Kaep getting a job! This is about respecting and acknowledging Black issues in America! It’s about having the freedom to address them head on, and finding out who will support you on the journey!
At what point do you have any self-respect or dignity as a man or woman: As a human? You can’t stop yourself from watching a game? It’s really simple. The NFL does not respect its players! The NFL’s concern is the same as Massas. Do what you are told to increase their income. You step out of line and you will be punished.

You can be anything you want to be in America except for pridefully Black and free!

THIS POST WAS ORIGINALLY WRITTEN ON SEPTEMBER 10TH, 2017 ON http://www.LetsTalkRaeStyle.com

Enough

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If you watched BET’s hit series “Being Mary Jane,” last night you watched an intense yet serious moment in Black TV history for Black women. Mary Jane I must admit is very relatable yet extreme at the same time. However when Aaliyah and Mary Jane sat at the office table to prep Mary Jane for her potential interview regarding Lee’s Show (Lee is MJ’s ex boyfriend) the conversation got heated. It was actually more like a monologue, because Aaliyah sat quietly.

Here is what was said by MJ: “His project is trafficking in the same tired tropes.” “Black women are crazy, Black women are promiscuous, Black women are angry.” “But, have Black men ever taken responsibility for driving us to that?” “We live in a society that treats us like we’re the bottom of the barrel when it comes to romance.”  “Couple that with constantly trying to prove ourselves as worthy enough, right?” ” Be confident baby girl, but not intimidating, be smart but not emasculating.”  “Never enough but too much, too damn much, all at the same damn time.” “Men are encouraged to objectify our bodies, but the minute we search for sexual satisfaction oh baby we are called WHORES!”

I am sure that some people probably took this as Mary Jane being angry, or bitter even though that is not the message nor intent. However, does Mary Jane make some valid points? Shouldn’t Mary Jane have the right to be angry when she, and other Black women are looked upon as a last resort? The bottom of the barrel and/or less beautiful? Has anyone taken the time to discuss why many Black women feel the way that they (we) do? Of course Black women discuss these things amongst each other, but does anyone else care to listen for understanding instead of  hearing us to respond and downplay our plight?

The truth of the matter is Black women are constantly walking on eggshells trying to be enough, and not too damn much!  Where is the balance in being smart, and then engaging in a conversation yet being perceived as emasculating because of what you know? How is being confident intimidating unless you’re in some form of competition? Everyone should be confident in themselves without being egotistical. Black women can barely take a sexy picture without negative backlash.  Men are encouraged to objectify the bodies of women. Yet women can’t seek to be satisfied sexually.

What’s the point of even having sex if you aren’t seeking physical satisfaction and pleasure? The entire ideology of Black women being promiscuous comes from slavery, and I’m exhausted with explaining that! If you didn’t know Black women did not enjoy being raped! Being raped for years does not equal promiscuity! If a Black woman does consider herself (is) to be promiscuous or sexually fluid that does not give anyone the right to disrespect her or judge her. Even if you feel like she may be disrespecting herself you still should respect her, because you don’t control the actions of others, you control yourself!

Did Mary Jane just express to the world what many of us have been thinking and feeling? If you were constantly jumping through hoops to fit a picture of what someone’s idea of you should be,  wouldn’t that make you crazy at some point?

THIS BLOG WAS ORIGINALLY WRITTEN AND POSTED AUGUST 30TH, 2017 at http://www.LetsTalkRaeStyle.com

Insecure

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Raebody

Today is August 17th, 2017 which is my Birthday (Earthday)… whatever name you want to call it! This year I decided upon a photo shoot. Not just any photo shoot, but a photo shoot and a blog to promote positive body image. I remember being displeased with my body at the age of nine. Some of my body parts seemed to be growing fast, which looked very awkward on a child. Adults would make negative comments about my body and we all know how cruel kids can be.
I always seemed to be bigger than everyone else including my friends. Even in high school, I considered myself to be the big girl with the pretty face. You see being “thick” wasn’t all that popular in my day. I mean don’t get me wrong, there has always been males, at that time, that made me feel good about my body- but the damage had already been done. If you don’t feel good about your body it doesn’t even matter what anyone else thinks.
The lead girls in music videos were always thin unless it was Buffy the Body and she was all butt back then! I don’t really recall seeing many positive images of bigger women on TV, if I saw any at all. My birthday photo shoot felt like a coming out moment for me. It’s me accepting my entire body flaws and all! Recently one of my Facebook friends asked if there were any girls out here with naturally perfect curves without any enhancements from surgery. If you didn’t know we are in the age of Brazilian butt jobs, liposuction, tummy tucks, and gastric bypass surgery. There is absolutely nothing wrong with any of those procedures if that is what you need to feel beautiful.  As a person that has never had any type of surgery, those avenues just aren’t for me currently.
My body may not be perfect, but I love the way I look!  I definitely have curves, and I make an effort to workout 4-5 days a week. I don’t workout due to my weight; I workout because I want to obtain and maintain good health. This blog isn’t just about big or bigger girls. This blog is for every girl or woman who has ever been told that she’s too skinny or too tall. For every woman who has been told her breast or butt weren’t big enough, or that her stomach wasn’t flat enough. It’s for every person that has ever been compared to a model, actress, singer, or some random girl on Instagram that shows all her goods!
Embrace whatever body type that you may have. Look at your beautiful naked body in the mirror and speak positive life into yourself! You believe what you tell yourself, and as long as you speak positively to yourself you’ll never feel insecure.
Respect and love your body no matter its shape or size.
Photo credit JMT Printing & Design photo of Ashley Rae..
THIS BLOG WAS ORIGINALLY POSTED AUGUST 17TH 2017 at http://www.LetsTalkRaeStyle.com